...so yesterday I had been in the office about 15 minutes before my boss called me and my co-worker Melissa into his office.
Steve: First of all I just want to say how impressed me and Rob (president of the company) have been with you two. You've done some great work. You two are non-exempt right? (meaning we get paid overtime)
Me: No. We're exempt just like everyone else in the office. (He was clearly being passive agreessive).
Steve: Oh! (fakes surprise) I thought you were. I'll have to check that. Well, Ron and I were hoping that the two of you might be able to step up and work some extra hours until we find some appropriate candidates. And we are still looking for people of course. This would just be temporary.
(Melissa and I look at each other clearly shocked at being blindsided this early in the morning -8:15!!)
Melissa: okay?
Me: I have to think about it.
So here is why i'm disinclined to agree to this:
1.) Before we lost an employee they had 3 months notice...THREE!!!! That she was going to be leaving.
2.) She left a month and a half ago. (so it's been 4 1/2 months and no serious prospects)
3.) No one has been in for an interview since mid-June and the only advertising has been done on a few college job boards (no Monster, careerbuilder, or hotjobs)
4.) They continue to accept more jobs without actively trying to get an appropriate staff.
5.) If they found someone to interview today it would take a month minimum for them to go through the hiring process and another 2 weeks or so until the new person was trained.
6.) I have 5 meetings in 5 weeks from mid-September into Mid-October...I've been given a months notice to plan one of them and I am pretty much ready to bite your head off without working extra hours.
7.) I just plain don't want my life to revolve around work. The nature of my work takes up some weekends and I'm okay with that but I will not be a workaholic and I will not worry about work when I'm not there.
8.) Time is money, pay me for it. Nothing comes for free and you shouldn't expect it to. You are a seasoned business person and you know as well as anyone that no one works for free. There's no promise that I will get a raise or bonus or promotion (even though i am doing the same work as my supervisor now and making less money)
9.) It's a very poor business strategy to think that you can rely on your already maxed out employees to work extra hours so that you can continue to take on more meetings. Staff accordingly or don't take the job.
So the hard part is telling him all this without being rude or causing any problems...especially since he WILL be rude and interrupt and not listen to what I'm saying at all... being passive agressive so I'm going to have to take this one head on. I'm going to have to write it down, similar to what I've just written, except it will be much less combative.
to be continued....
Thursday, August 14, 2008
Tuesday, August 12, 2008
...be the only single friend...
...i've heard it before from people..."i am the only single friend blah blah blah"...but really...i pretty much am...
...I'm almost 23 and I really didn't think I was going to have to think about friends getting married and having kids for at least a few more years. That is not the case. It seems like all of a sudden everyone I know is getting engaged, married, or worse...having children (at least it's unintentional).
Okay I get it...we all just finished college so people feel pressure to take the next logical step. There are a couple flaws with this. 1.) not all of you are waiting until you graduate...there's nothing like living in the dorms with your husband. 2.) You just got out of school...how are you supposed to start a life with all that debt. 3.) you're still young and have some maturing to do...what's the rush to get married...you could date for a while longer.
Don't get me wrong...I'm not that cynical. I love weddings as much as the next person but when all your friends start dropping like flies and suddenly all conversations revolve around wedding planning...it gets old real fast.
I think I first started to realize that I was the last single girl when I went to a wedding with some friends a month ago. Four of us were driving up to the wedding together and talking about all the new engagements in the car. Then we realized that we were the only four people (out of our friends) that would be "single" at the wedding. All the other friends were alredy married or engaged. Only my other three friends in the car were in relationships. So when they say "All you single gals, come out to catch the bouquet" I would be the onyl one going out there...along with probably a few tween aged family members. Is that not ridiculous?
Even worse than being the solo bouquet catcher is that everyone assumes that you SHOULD be in a relationship so they try to set you up with any single person they know. It's as if the worst things a young woman can be is single. Any old person will do. Then you ask if they would date the person that they suggested to you and they say no, and that he's kind of weird...but really he's a nice guy. Then don't suggest him.
When I say "I'm single" please do not mistake this statement as "Send me your strange, your jobless, your freaks and assholes". Blind dates are the most awkward invention in our culture (please see : Vince Vaughn's rant in Wedding Crashers about the "forced awkward intimate situation"...i couldn't have said it better myself)
So please...the only favor I want you to do me is not treat me like there's something wrong with me for not freaking out over being single. I'm not concerned about it and you shouldn't be either. Cut me some slack. I'm only 22. I'd rather enjoy what I have then obsess about what I don't.
Until next time...make sure you check out the playback of Jamie Moyer bunting a triple and kncoking over and umpire ( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0lzJPb6CqvE)...
~Sheila
...I'm almost 23 and I really didn't think I was going to have to think about friends getting married and having kids for at least a few more years. That is not the case. It seems like all of a sudden everyone I know is getting engaged, married, or worse...having children (at least it's unintentional).
Okay I get it...we all just finished college so people feel pressure to take the next logical step. There are a couple flaws with this. 1.) not all of you are waiting until you graduate...there's nothing like living in the dorms with your husband. 2.) You just got out of school...how are you supposed to start a life with all that debt. 3.) you're still young and have some maturing to do...what's the rush to get married...you could date for a while longer.
Don't get me wrong...I'm not that cynical. I love weddings as much as the next person but when all your friends start dropping like flies and suddenly all conversations revolve around wedding planning...it gets old real fast.
I think I first started to realize that I was the last single girl when I went to a wedding with some friends a month ago. Four of us were driving up to the wedding together and talking about all the new engagements in the car. Then we realized that we were the only four people (out of our friends) that would be "single" at the wedding. All the other friends were alredy married or engaged. Only my other three friends in the car were in relationships. So when they say "All you single gals, come out to catch the bouquet" I would be the onyl one going out there...along with probably a few tween aged family members. Is that not ridiculous?
Even worse than being the solo bouquet catcher is that everyone assumes that you SHOULD be in a relationship so they try to set you up with any single person they know. It's as if the worst things a young woman can be is single. Any old person will do. Then you ask if they would date the person that they suggested to you and they say no, and that he's kind of weird...but really he's a nice guy. Then don't suggest him.
When I say "I'm single" please do not mistake this statement as "Send me your strange, your jobless, your freaks and assholes". Blind dates are the most awkward invention in our culture (please see : Vince Vaughn's rant in Wedding Crashers about the "forced awkward intimate situation"...i couldn't have said it better myself)
So please...the only favor I want you to do me is not treat me like there's something wrong with me for not freaking out over being single. I'm not concerned about it and you shouldn't be either. Cut me some slack. I'm only 22. I'd rather enjoy what I have then obsess about what I don't.
Until next time...make sure you check out the playback of Jamie Moyer bunting a triple and kncoking over and umpire ( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0lzJPb6CqvE)...
~Sheila
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